Over the course of the past few weeks, Victor and I have been interviewed together and individually by our social worker Wendy. The first session was with us together and the second and third were individual interviews.
You may recall that I was acting a little insane, thinking about how she might interpret the autobiographies we had to write, and thinking that she might over-analyze mine. One of the key takeaways from the actual interviews (as opposed to the scenarios that played through my head beforehand) was this:
Not a State Trooper |
So serious. "Look like the face on the book!" 2008 |
Those who know him now might be surprised to know that Victor used to hardly share anything about anything with anybody. What can I say? I broke him. And now when we are in a social setting and he starts oversharing I have no one to blame but myself. I love you, husband.
That, and finding an inside joke about fluffy cops and laser-eyed chinchillas hilllllllarious.
I think you just...had to be there to fully understand. We don't even really understand it anymore.
It is funny reflecting on those days when we first became best friends. Victor and I were really and truly great friends for while before we ever considered one another romantically, and when that idea surfaced it rose simultaneously with the knowledge that we would be getting married. We more or less went straight from being just friends to being engaged - Which is part of why it was tough to explain what made me fall for him in the first place - because I was the very last person to find out we were meant to be. When did I fall for him? The only times I can recall specifically are literal examples that prove nothing other than that I am a klutz.
Just Friends to Just Married... and just knocked over their wedding cake. 2010 |
The main point of these interviews was for Wendy to better understand how our relationship works: how we support one another, how we communicate, and how we disagree.
In our separate interviews, she asked us what values are most important to us that we want to impart on our child. Despite not having purposely discussed it beforehand, apparently we listed the exact same three items: our spirituality, respect for all people, and the importance of serving our community and neighbors.
So, not that we should have been worried but, as far as the interviews went: I think we passed.
Thank you for joining us on this journey!